Unwanted. Set aside. Abandoned. Words no one ever wants to hear or experience. Agonizing. Painful.
Maybe you’ve listened to a friend as she shared these heart-wrenching words about a spouse, “He didn’t want me anymore.” Maybe you’ve been a shoulder to cry on as you comforted someone whose long-time friend abandoned the relationship. Maybe this is your story. Whether it was felt in a broken marriage, friendship, or from a parent or close family member — the feeling of being unwanted might be one of the deepest hurts a person can ever experience.
For those living in the shadow of these words, you may have that cast aside feeling– that feeling that someone looked at you and decided you weren’t needed or wanted anymore …as if you had an expiration date stamped on your head and someone put you out at the curb to be picked up with the rest of the trash….ignoring that you even existed ….walking past you without even looking or engaging in conversation.
From the trash heap, you watch others laugh and enjoy conversation and life together …without you. Loneliness sets in. Lack of confidence in who you are since who you are feels rejected …thrown out …abandoned …unloved.
Wounded people often wound others with the very thing that wounded them. Their wounds — still jagged at the edges — pierce another heart.
But that’s when Jesus comes down the road you’re on and stops dead in His tracks. He sees you. He notices your wounds and shows you His own to let you know how well He identifies with your pain and suffering. He too, has felt that painful rejection and abandonment by those He deeply loves and even died to save.
He holds out His hand to lift you up out of the trash heap you feel you were thrown into. He hugs you — filthiness and all — and whispers truth to your wounded heart — “You’re mine and I love you.” He promises you that He is here for you –Emmanuel, God with us — and that His grace is enough …that He is all you need and everything you’ve ever really wanted. He says He will comfort you and walk with you — even go before you and navigate the next step for you. You will never be left alone. He assures you with, “I will always be with you.” Friends may fail you. Family may leave you or disown you but He “will hold you close.” He will be the strength of your life. He gives His guarantee,”I will never leave you or abandon you.” *
Take His hand. Walk with Him. He will show you the path of life.*
While walking hand in hand with Jesus, the warmth of His love gives confidence and a surprising new ability to turn and love others in their own journey. Turns out, everyone has been in the trash heap together. Some realize it. Some don’t. All of us need to be rescued …reclaimed …remade.
The moment you realize where you are is the very moment you can look up to see Jesus, holding His hand out for you saying, “Come to me …my yoke is easy …the burden … light.”* He’ll wrap you in the comfort of the Holy Spirit and the strong arms of the Father who says what you’ve longed to hear all along …”Welcome home!”
I guess it’s true …“one man’s trash is another man’s treasure.”
Dear friend, you are treasured and deeply loved by God and precious in His sight. He always wants to be with you and He longs for you to be with Him. Take His hand today.
“I waited patiently for the Lord to help me —
and He turned to me and heard my cry —
He lifted me out of the pit of despair, out of the mud and the mire.
He set my feet on solid ground and steadied me as I walked along.
He has given me a new song to sing, a hymn of praise to our God.
Many will see what He has done and be amazed. They will put their trust in the Lord.”
*Many of the phrases in this post came from passages in Scripture that have sustained me through my own struggles with life’s ups and downs. I’ve listed some for you here because they are for you as well. Click on each link below to read more of God’s promises for you and for me:
Isaiah 43 , Matthew 1:23 , 2 Peter 1:3, 2 Corinthians 12:9 , Psalm 23 , Deuteronomy 31:8 , Psalm 27:10 , Psalm 16:11 , Hebrews 13 , Matthew 11:28-30 , Psalm 27:1 , Isaiah 43